Sunday, September 27, 2015

Celebrating Dennis

I love this picture of me holding this little sign Dennis gave me at one of the Cowell family reunions.  It pretty much sums up our relationship & is a great example of Dennis' sense of humor...


Obituary:
Dennis Lee Harwell was born in Fresno, California on May 23, 1950 and passed away September 15, 2015 at Chandler Regional Medical Center in Chandler, Arizona.

Dennis was preceded in death by his parents, James E Harwell of Perry, Arkansas, Glenda L Harwell of Bakersfield, California, and his brother, Richard (Dickie) Harwell of Bakersfield.

Dennis is survived by his siblings, Terry & Denise Harwell of Modesto, California and Paul & Jennifer Middleton of Coloma, California; his children, Sam Harwell and Savannah Cirillo of Bakersfield, California and Tiffany Friedlos of Oakdale, California; and three grandchildren, Logan, Leia, & Emma Rose.

Dennis attended Norris School and North High School in Bakersfield, graduating in 1968 before going on to attend Bakersfield College. He was active in high school and community sports, especially Fast Pitch Softball where he played for several Bakersfield teams in tournaments all over the United States. In 1984, while playing for Hudson Supply Company, his team won the National Championship in Fargo North Dakota, bringing home the MVP honors. He is an avid golfer and has been a member of many golf clubs throughout California and Arizona where he enjoyed playing in golf tournaments and developing lifelong friendships along the way.

Dennis worked in the Title industry for 40 years and was the Title Manager for Equity Title Agency in Scottsdale, Arizona where he worked for the past 8 years. He felt at home with his "Title family" in both California and Arizona, where he will be remembered for his warm and caring personality, sense of humor, and his infectious laugh.


A memorial service will be held for Dennis in the chapel at Greenlawn Mortuary, 3700 River Blvd in Bakersfield, Saturday, September 26, 2015 at 10:00am.


Dennis has always wanted to be buried in Bakersfield, next to our brother Dickie. So we made arrangements for that to happen.  Jill put together this program for his service - the top is the outside cover, the bottom is the inside...


I talked about Dennis' musical talents (he was an excellent guitar player), his pride in his family, & his devotion to our mother. Terry did a great job of highlighting his sports talents, friendships with many, & how he was not only his best friend, but our father-figure & protector.

Dennis' siblings

Dennis' children, Sam & Tiffany

Sam's Savannah & Leia

Grateful to my family who could make it.

Terry's girls

We all gathered afterwards in one of the conference rooms at the Robobank Arena, where Sam worked.  Many old softball & golf buddies came, along with co-workers from SLO & family. They came to share their memories of Dennis...

Softball & Golf buddies

Cousins & extended family

Dennis' children & grandchildren

Tiffany, Sam, Terry, & me



“I’ve learned that goodbyes will always hurt, pictures will never replace being there, thanks is a feeble word, memories forget the hard times, words can never replace feelings, and heroes often go unsung.” Unknown


Saying Goodbye to September...


SERVICE - We participated in an on going service project our ward has by preparing/serving meals to the needy at The Upper Room in Placerville…


 



NEW TOYS!  We always take inventory about this time of year, put away our summer activities, & get ready for fall. We decided to “retire” our old air hockey table & upgrade a few of our toys around the house – ready for future fun…





TOFW - I attended Time Out for Women with some lovely ladies from my ward…I also ran into Paul’s cousin, Chet Harmer & some San Jose friends; Christie Saville Buchanan with her new baby girl & Lynnette Barlow with her (not so baby anymore) daughter Lindsay!  We were challenged to make a promise to do something that would be a testimony of the living proof of the Savior at work in our lives.






Last year at TOFW I got a text from Ty that Christi was in labor & Trey was born the next day.  This year I got a text from Leah that she was in labor & Paige Leah Bassett was born September 11, 2015 - 8# 10oz, 21” long. So excited to welcome our 30th grandchild!




REMEBERING…I love the fall, it is really one of my favorite times of the year, but it always gives me a melancholy feeling – this year even more so as I remembered the anniversary of my brother’s tragic death 45 years ago, September 12, 1970.  He was only 17 at the time, 2 years older than me.  His senior portraits were actually taken earlier on the day he died in a car wreck on I-5 @ the Grapevine. I often wonder what he would have been like now – what kind of job would he have chosen or would he have given me more nieces/nephews to love?  But I do believe I will see him again & I know the promise of forever families made possible by the Savior’s gift to us all.  Mosiah 16:8 “But there is a resurrection, therefore the grave hath no victory, and the sting of death is swallowed up in Christ.”





MY FAIRY GODMOTHER - I know the Fairy Godmother personally! I got a text from Jill while her family was at Disneyland with this picture that said, “Look who we found!” My friend has worked at Disneyland for about 40 years.  I love it when she’s working & my family runs into her!  It’s impressive for a child to realize that their grandmother knows the Fairy Godmother personally!  We used to teach cheerleading camps together & she has remained a dear friend through the years.  I sent her the photo with a thank you & as always, she shows concern for me…



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MY BROTHER DENNIS went in for a biopsy on September 15, 2016 & didn’t survive the procedure. Cindi was at the hospital waiting to visit him in recovery when I got the call. It was unexpected & really took us all by surprise.  My brother Terry & I flew into Phoenix the next day to make arrangements & clean out his apartment. So grateful for Cindi who dropped everything & helped us clear out his apartment. Neither Terry nor I were much help – it was difficult to think clearly while we were both grieving for our brother.  Dennis’ golf buddies & co-workers invited us to a celebration in his honor.  I often worried about Dennis being alone & far away from family, but it was clear that he wasn’t alone.  He was surrounded by a community of caring friends who loved him.  It was comforting to meet them & hear their stories.  It was a touching & tender send off as we released some colorful helium balloons into the heavens…






I stayed a few days extra to visit with the midgets & meet their newest addition, Scooter!





WELCOME PAIGE #30 – I got home from Phoenix just in time to hop on a plane to meet Leah’s new baby girl! She is so adorable & cuddly & so fresh from heaven - a great reminder of Heavenly Father’s Plan of Happiness & very healing for me.  We took Cooper on a little field trip to Thanksgiving Point, got to hang out & play with all the Utah kids, & participate in Paige’s blessing.  










So long September... "Tis the last rose of summer, left blooming alone; all her lovely companions are faded and gone." Thomas Moore